Many men enter erotic situations with urgency. Not excitement. Urgency. A sense that something must happen quickly before the moment disappears. Before desire fades. Before opportunity is lost. Before vulnerability catches up. This urgency is so normalized that few people ever stop to question it. It’s simply how erotic encounters are expected to work: fast, charged, slightly disconnected, often followed by silence or confusion. And yet, in my work, I hear something different

A lot of people approach tantric or erotic work with a quiet hesitation. They feel drawn to it, curious about it, but also unsure if they belong there yet. Often it shows up as a simple sentence, spoken almost apologetically. “I don’t think I’m healed enough for that kind of work.” I hear this often, especially from people who have already done a great deal of inner work. They have reflected, read, attended workshops, perhaps spent time in therapy. And yet there is a lingerin

In my work, people sometimes ask how I seem to know when to slow down, when to shift, when something isn’t landing even when they’re telling me everything is fine.  The answer is simple, though not always easy to practice: the body speaks before the mind does.  Most of us learned early how to manage our words. Very few of us learned how to listen to posture, breath, micro-movement, or orientation. Yet these are the places where the truth shows up first quietly, consistently,

There is a particular kind of electricity that moves through a body when it is touched with intention. Tickling, when done erotically, is not a joke and not a kink performed for spectacle. It is an invitation. It is a way of opening the body through anticipation and teasing contact, a way of coaxing a person into surrender. In the right hands it feels less like play and more like being worshipped. When a client lies down for an erotic tickling session, something subtle happen

Before I go any further, let me say this clearly: When I use the word Eros, I’m not talking about sex. I’m talking about the energy beneath sex, the pulse of aliveness that connects breath, body, emotion, and truth. It’s the warmth that rises in your chest when someone really sees you. It’s the quiet stirring of desire without shame. It’s the sense of being awake in your own skin. Eros can express sexually, yes, but it also expresses through presence, tenderness, curiosity, b

Erotic massage can be profoundly healing or deeply disappointing. I’ve heard too many stories from people who went looking for connection, presence, and healing, and instead found confusion, pressure, or exploitation. Below are some ways to recognize practitioners who honor the sacred nature of this work and to protect yourself from those who don’t. Know What You’re Looking For Before you reach out, take a moment to clarify what you actually want: Are you seeking touch that

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In my work, intimacy begins with presence. When a client enters the space, I don’t analyze or judge them. Instead, I attune to something...

When people ask me what it’s like to work with me as a sacred intimate, I sometimes use a simple metaphor: imagine intimacy like the game...

Discover how trust, intimacy, and eros can unlock profound healing and empowerment—where erotic work becomes a doorway to transformation.

There’s something about Barcelona. The sunlight spilling over ancient stone streets. The pulse of music from hidden bars. The endless...

It starts innocently enough. You’re lying face down on the table, towel draped over your hips, breath slow and even. The lights are low,...

Every so often, a client will look at me with vulnerability in their eyes and ask, “How can something this real, this intense, still be...

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When Eros Returns After a Long Absence

After fifteen years of offering erotic massage, I’ve seen a wide range of expressions—sensual, surprising, shy, bold, reverent, playful,...

Sometimes, after a session, a client’s words linger like perfume. Not the erotic ones, but the tender ones. The unexpected ones....

There’s a moment—just before climax—when the body trembles with possibility. A breath caught. A muscle tensed. A moan hovering between...

Not every client who walks through my door is working on unhealed trauma. Some arrive with something else—something equally powerful and...

Between Silence and Desire: Erotic Healing for Men from Conservative Cultures In my work, I often meet men carrying a weight they can’t...