The Tennis Court of Intimacy

When people ask me what it’s like to work with me as a sacred intimate, I sometimes use a simple metaphor: imagine intimacy like the game of tennis.

A professional tennis coach has two unique skills. First, they know how to teach fundamentals. They can take a beginner who has never held a racket and gently introduce the grip, the footwork, the timing of a swing. They create a safe space where mistakes are part of the process, where confidence builds through practice, and where the player discovers the joy of making real contact with the ball.

But a coach also knows how to play at the highest level. They can step onto the court with seasoned athletes, returning fast serves and matching the rhythm of a high-paced, high-intensity game. Their body remembers the depth of the craft. They can hold presence even under pressure.

What often gets overlooked in tennis is the psychological coaching: learning how to stay present after missing a shot, how to breathe under pressure, how to transform nerves into focus. A great coach doesn’t just train the muscles, they train the mind and spirit. Sacred intimacy is the same. It’s not only about touch, but about awareness. It’s about learning how to relax into connection, how to soften old patterns of tension, how to trust yourself and another person in the vulnerable arena of closeness.

This is the space I offer. Some people come wanting to start with the basics: safety, presence, breath, and the simple art of being in their body without judgment. Others arrive ready to explore advanced states of arousal, surrender, or energetic expansion. My role is to meet you exactly where you are — sometimes as a teacher, sometimes as a partner in practice, and sometimes as both.

What matters is not the “level” of the game but the quality of connection. Whether we’re working on grounding, trust, and awareness, or exploring the intensity of eros and vulnerability at its peak,

the goal is the same: to create a space where your body learns, your heart softens, and intimacy becomes both a practice and a joy.

If this resonates with you, I invite you to step onto the court with me. Together, we can discover the rhythm and depth of your own game of intimacy.

Tennis player